I was going to write about my "goals" but a girlfriend of mine has been using "intentions" which I really like better...
I used to be SUPER INTO GOALS. I've always been really goal-oriented and would set them then achieve them. It always felt really great but lately (the past year?) I have not been able to set a goal that I find motivating.
I think it's due to contentment. It's not complacency, which implies unhappiness or laziness. It's true contentment. I'm satisfied with how things currently are so I don't have this drive to change things, although at the same time, I think things could stand to be just a bit better and there's things I want to work on, they're not crucial. And that makes it so hard to push myself or stick to something consistently because if I don't, is it really a big deal? Probably not.
The truth is, my husband and I are finally talking about starting a family. We've been married 9.5 years and we finally feel like we're ready. I want to be my healthiest self once we do start trying. I'm 33 years old so I want to make sure my body is healthy & I've been taking care of it. I'm also acutely aware of the fact that if I am unable to make my health a priority now, I definitely won't be able to do it when a baby enters the picture. And call it vanity, selfishness or naivety but that's just not okay with me. I grew up with parents who were not healthy and didn't take care of themselves and I want my child to see the opposite. Don't we always duplicate what we saw as children OR overcompensate? Haha!
MY BEST SELF
When I imagine who my best self is, it's this person who is active, loves to be outdoors, barely sits at the computer or the TV outside of work hours and makes the most of being productive & active. That's definitely not me right now... but I want it to be! I work a lot. I sit at a computer all day then go home and grab my laptop and resume working while watching TV. I think this may surprise people b/c I hear all the time "Kelsa, you're so productive, how do you get it all done?" HA! Sometimes I feel like I'm living a lie or representing something that's not accurate. I don't mean to do it but I don't want anyone to feel like I've got this shit figured out when I don't. Or most importantly, I want to be outdoors more, I want to soak up the sun and keep my body and mind fresh & moving. It's important to me and I don't want to just be this person "sometimes" or when it's convenient with my work load, I want to be this person first and a business person 2nd.
MY INTENTIONS:
1. Eat clean & drink lots of water: I'd like to introduce a cheat day once a week otherwise I'd like to eat clean- meat, fruits, veggies, etc. And I need to make sure I'm not getting too many calories from liquids which can be a weakness for me. It's not pop thankfully, but I drink a lot of coffee & coconut water or tea before water. I need to drink more water FIRST then those things can follow. Things will help me achieve this include meal prepping & planning ahead.
2. Take my vitamins: I am deficient in a few things due to a genetic disorder in my family. Normally I do not even notice it like some other family members because of my healthy diet for the most part (they eat out fast food like every meal). But, I need to take my vitamins every day, no exceptions.
3. Do my hip exercises 3x per week. My husband shares an office with me now so he has all his fitness equipment here. If I have 20 minutes in between clients, there's really no excuse for me to do my hip exercises. I've had hip issues for a really long time and I can only imagine how bad this could get during pregnancy or while giving labor. I need to stay on top of it and take care of myself because I feel soooo much more limber and terrific when I do them.
4. Go to yoga 1x per week. Same as #3- I feel incredible after I go so I just need to do it.
5. Workout at the gym 2x per week.
6. Walk/Jog, swim or bike 2x per week. I'm a wuss and although I live in Phoenix, it's too cold to go to the community pool for me right now but soon it will be perfect so I can't wait. Until then, I need to get on my bike (even if that means biking to/from work) or go for a jog or long walk.
Things that will help me to accomplish all the fitness & active intentions I have are to plan my schedule for the week in advance. Block out time to do each of those things and then follow through on them.
7. Attempt to change my biological clock. I currently stay up until midnight and get up around 7AM. I'd like to go to bed a little earlier & get up earlier. I'm lucky enough to be able to set my own schedule and I usually start seeing clients at 9AM or 9:30AM. There's no reason why I can't accomplish the above things first thing in the morning. In my head, I could workout at 6 or 7AM but I never see myself working out late at night so I need to shift my schedule a bit.
8. I'd like to go hiking a couple times each month. Gosh, I LOVE the outdoors- it just does something for me- my attitude, my perspective, my confidence, everything! Again, I need to schedule these for weekends we have coming up & make it a priority. Otherwise, the weekend comes and goes and we never get on a trail.
I used to be SUPER INTO GOALS. I've always been really goal-oriented and would set them then achieve them. It always felt really great but lately (the past year?) I have not been able to set a goal that I find motivating.
I think it's due to contentment. It's not complacency, which implies unhappiness or laziness. It's true contentment. I'm satisfied with how things currently are so I don't have this drive to change things, although at the same time, I think things could stand to be just a bit better and there's things I want to work on, they're not crucial. And that makes it so hard to push myself or stick to something consistently because if I don't, is it really a big deal? Probably not.
The truth is, my husband and I are finally talking about starting a family. We've been married 9.5 years and we finally feel like we're ready. I want to be my healthiest self once we do start trying. I'm 33 years old so I want to make sure my body is healthy & I've been taking care of it. I'm also acutely aware of the fact that if I am unable to make my health a priority now, I definitely won't be able to do it when a baby enters the picture. And call it vanity, selfishness or naivety but that's just not okay with me. I grew up with parents who were not healthy and didn't take care of themselves and I want my child to see the opposite. Don't we always duplicate what we saw as children OR overcompensate? Haha!
MY BEST SELF
When I imagine who my best self is, it's this person who is active, loves to be outdoors, barely sits at the computer or the TV outside of work hours and makes the most of being productive & active. That's definitely not me right now... but I want it to be! I work a lot. I sit at a computer all day then go home and grab my laptop and resume working while watching TV. I think this may surprise people b/c I hear all the time "Kelsa, you're so productive, how do you get it all done?" HA! Sometimes I feel like I'm living a lie or representing something that's not accurate. I don't mean to do it but I don't want anyone to feel like I've got this shit figured out when I don't. Or most importantly, I want to be outdoors more, I want to soak up the sun and keep my body and mind fresh & moving. It's important to me and I don't want to just be this person "sometimes" or when it's convenient with my work load, I want to be this person first and a business person 2nd.
MY INTENTIONS:
1. Eat clean & drink lots of water: I'd like to introduce a cheat day once a week otherwise I'd like to eat clean- meat, fruits, veggies, etc. And I need to make sure I'm not getting too many calories from liquids which can be a weakness for me. It's not pop thankfully, but I drink a lot of coffee & coconut water or tea before water. I need to drink more water FIRST then those things can follow. Things will help me achieve this include meal prepping & planning ahead.
2. Take my vitamins: I am deficient in a few things due to a genetic disorder in my family. Normally I do not even notice it like some other family members because of my healthy diet for the most part (they eat out fast food like every meal). But, I need to take my vitamins every day, no exceptions.
3. Do my hip exercises 3x per week. My husband shares an office with me now so he has all his fitness equipment here. If I have 20 minutes in between clients, there's really no excuse for me to do my hip exercises. I've had hip issues for a really long time and I can only imagine how bad this could get during pregnancy or while giving labor. I need to stay on top of it and take care of myself because I feel soooo much more limber and terrific when I do them.
4. Go to yoga 1x per week. Same as #3- I feel incredible after I go so I just need to do it.
5. Workout at the gym 2x per week.
6. Walk/Jog, swim or bike 2x per week. I'm a wuss and although I live in Phoenix, it's too cold to go to the community pool for me right now but soon it will be perfect so I can't wait. Until then, I need to get on my bike (even if that means biking to/from work) or go for a jog or long walk.
Things that will help me to accomplish all the fitness & active intentions I have are to plan my schedule for the week in advance. Block out time to do each of those things and then follow through on them.
7. Attempt to change my biological clock. I currently stay up until midnight and get up around 7AM. I'd like to go to bed a little earlier & get up earlier. I'm lucky enough to be able to set my own schedule and I usually start seeing clients at 9AM or 9:30AM. There's no reason why I can't accomplish the above things first thing in the morning. In my head, I could workout at 6 or 7AM but I never see myself working out late at night so I need to shift my schedule a bit.
8. I'd like to go hiking a couple times each month. Gosh, I LOVE the outdoors- it just does something for me- my attitude, my perspective, my confidence, everything! Again, I need to schedule these for weekends we have coming up & make it a priority. Otherwise, the weekend comes and goes and we never get on a trail.
I struggle with this too! Especially the business person part - or the girlfriend or friend or single woman. I make being active and outdoors and away from stuff a low priority even though when I picture "who I am" or "my best self" it's the opposite. It's so crazy how that works! I know I'm 1,000 times better when I'm outside, in nature, hiking, moving, etc. I love this post, I feel a real kinship with it/you.
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